I just got done watching the recent episode of Oprah on the Law of Attraction. While I love that this stuff is finally starting to get mainstream exposure, I can't help but find myself a tad bit annoyed because I learned about the Law of Attraction nearly 10 years ago. Back then I wished I had more people to talk about it with, now I am annoyed because it's not my little secret anymore. Go figure.
Anyhow, I know one of my major issues is self-appreciation, or rather lack thereof. One of the things that I got from this episode that really stuck with me was that you have to love yourself for it to really happen. While this should seem obvious to me, I didn't really realize how much I didn't love myself until I had Piper. That's a whole 'nother story that I don't really want to go into now, but it has made me realize how much work I need to do on myself before I pass it on to Piper. Mom's are good that way, handing down baggage unknowingly just by being themselves. There are definitely some ducks that I need to line up. My mom did an amazing job with me considering how her own mom treated her thoughout her life, but I still have issues that can clearly be traced back to my mom and her behaviours & attitudes. Actions may speak louder than words, but energy requires no physical action to still have an impact on someone.
With that said, I want to express some things I love about myself.
- I love my blue eyes and how people sometimes thinks they are colored contacts. As a side note, I love that people notice my eyes much less now because they are now complimenting Piper's eyes.
- I love that even though I am overweight, I am still stronger than most of my friends.
- I love that I am healthy and only get sick a couple of days each year, if that.
- I love my laugh. Some people think it's too loud, but some people find it contagious. It's only loud because I am really feeling it.
- I love that I am an easy-going person and generally know when it's worth my energy to get my feathers all ruffled.
- I love that am a good judge of character.
- I love that when someone is really annoying me, I usually try to understand why they are behaving the way that they are and that it typically has nothing to do with me.
- I love that I have learned to speak my mind. I still don't do it as much as I could, but it's a vast improvement from even just 5 years ago.
- I love how honest I am. It's hard for me to even tell white lies most of the time.
- I love how intuitive I have become and continue to become. We all have it, it's just a matter of actually listening enough to hear it and then trusting it.
- I love how intelligent I am. Learning has always came easy to me. I took my intelligence for granted while in the academic and professional world. Jumping outside of those worlds was a good reminder for me.
- I love that I am a kind person and I would never knowingly do something to hurt someone else.
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- I'm a 30-something stay-at-home mom trying to find a balance between being a good mom and carrying on my passion as a jewelry designer.
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4 comments:
Erin, your blog is free therapy!!!
Very profound stuff, and I completely agree about not appreciating ourselves enough, and I realized a long time ago that A LOT of my self-esteem issues came from attitudes that I picked up from MY mom, who also struggled with self-worth and self-confidence. I am very concerned about passing on those feelings onto my girls, and now I almost "over-praise" my kids trying to build up their confidence.
I'm not really sure when my insecurities began to surface, because I do remember thinking positively about myself in grade school. I always did well academically too, and was complimented for being "pretty" ocassionally... I think by the time I was 15 I started to feel "unlikable", and now, I deal with feelings of inadequacy as a wife, a mother, a sister, and a friend. I have a perfectionistic personality, but still feel that I am never quite measuring up...
Your list is very brave and impressive. The sad thing is, I would really struggle to come up with a list of things that I love about myself.
I haven't really read anything regarding the "law of attraction", nor did I watch Oprah's episode, but it sounds a lot like a basic law of physics: Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, but can only change form. Hence, you get out what you put in. Makes sense to me!
Thanks for a more thoughtful post than most of the ones I typically come across... deep stuff!!!
Thanks for taking the time to read all that. All this time alone at home with the little one gives me lots, perhaps too much, time to think (or dwell upon) things. I drive Mike crazy at times because men just don't get these types of feelings.
The Law of Attraction is basically what the book "The Secret" is about. I am sure you have heard of that. I came across the idea from a New Age source, but it's found many other places. Napolean Hill, Norman Vincent Peale, Catherine Ponder are examples of Christian scholars that basically taught the same thing decades ago, but from a religious perspective.
The Law of Attraction basically is you get what you focus upon. A great example is the war. Are you anti-war or pro-peace and where are you focusing? So many people that want the war to end are focusing on what the don't want instead of visualizing what they do want. Kids are a good example of why it works that way. When you say "Don't touch that" touch that is often what comes through there little brains after processing so they still do. If you would just distract them from the situtation instead of telling them what to do, you're more successful. Not exactly the same thing, but I think you may get the idea.
Check out the book The Secret. It's a fast read and can you change the ugly voices in your head to something better. It's amazing how we can insult ourselves, but would never dream of saying the same things about another person.
Good stuff, Erin. Going have to work on focusing on the positive aspects of life instead of the negative. A good thing to remember just before the school year begins!
I love all those things about you, too!! I saw that Oprah episode and I was actually thinking about making a vision board, but finding the time is a little tricky. This reminded me about a conversation I was having with Ray the other day. I was commenting to him about my current size, and he told me not to talk about that in front of Grace. He was totally right.
I really love this post, it takes a lot of thought to come up with things you really love about yourself and it isn't always easy. But it is completely essential to growing and improving yourself. It is definitely something I need to do. I really appreciate this post!
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